Earlier this year I suggested that “life is not a War“.
It is a Gift.
To be received.
Every moment & aspect of it.
This, I believe, is one of the most important realizations we need to embrace as we discover happiness.
Yet, we are not ‘happy people‘ in a vacuum.
We are ‘happy people‘ surrounded by a desperate crowd, hoping to find happiness in stuff, in power, in escapism, achievement, superiority and even in destruction.
We are constantly expozed to the fragrance of the people in our proximity.
The happy people, as well as the unhappy ones.
And affected by it.
Also, the more evident our happiness becomes, the more offensive it becomes, offending those who aren’t happy.
And when that happens, when our happiness becomes offensive, those who are deeply unhappy start working very hard to destroy in us what they could not gain.
I doubt it is intentional.
Or attempted destruction.
Just as the (o)Fence we give through truly being happy, is not intentional.
It is a gift I would rather not receive.
A gift I would rather not give.
This is however how it is along 礼品之路 (The Way of the Gift) we receive without asking & whatever we receive as gift, becomes a gift we give again, abundantly, without even trying.
And as we give (o)Fence, we need to receive with it the gift of knowing how to respond to the people we have offended.
Which brings another Way of being.
Another Way of (o)Fending.
Earlier on my journey, before I even knew this journey was about happiness, I read a work by Henry Cloud & John Townsend: Boundaries.
It speaks of self-knowledge.
That we need to see the ‘fences’ of our being.
That we need to be honest about them.
Not as limitations, but as something which sets us free, to be & become, everything our Origin created us to be.
I also learnt from Henry Cloud & John Townsend about healthy responsibility.
That I am responsible for my ‘self’, my own ‘being’.
I am not responsible for the happiness or peace of anyone else.
I may contribute.
I may enable.
I may assist.
But I am not responsible.
And so I know who I am, as I learn who I am, with every day of becoming and every gift received.
The ‘fences’ of who I am clear.
The fences of what I am responsible for, as well.
And I know I am responsible for my ‘self’.
Also to lock the gates in my fences when they give (o)fence.
And to keep them errect, when the fencelessness of another wants to destroy them.
I think embracing truth is invaluable when faced with having been (o)fensive.
Truth about my ‘abilities‘.
Truth about the deep unhappiness which has infested this world & constantly threatens to overwhelm it & me with it.
And so, in all love & kindess, always hoping happiness wil push back unhappiness, rather than (o)ffend the unhappy, I receive the freedom to graciously speak the truth, whenever the (o)fensiveness of my happiness demands it.
Strengthening my fences.
For I know it is inside my fences that happiness will always flourish.
Every truth I speak intended to nudge.
While hammering my fences soundly into place.
I hope we’ll see (o)fence is Gift as well.
I hope our happiness will survive this gift.
As we are reminded that it is okay to be (o)fencesive.
And it is okay to graciously embrace Truth.
And speak it.
For the Gift is precious.
Only received through Grace, in Truth.